The power of your smile

Hi everyone, thanks for checking in with me. My year so far is going well and I wanted to share with you something that many of us take for granted and that is the power of a smile.

Smiling is so powerful and it is something that we can all do. You may find your smiling when you think about your day or that special someone, it can happen anywhere or at any moment.

l know smiling can I improve your whole mood. I have this friend and when we are in a meeting and I smile at her she just gets what l am thinking and we reflect each other’s smile and we look around the room and others start smiling too.

Sometimes that smile can transform into a giggle and when you are laughing and smiling it is one of the best feelings in the world. I have found some really brilliant blogs I am following and they just make me smile and laugh as l relate to the experience or picture the situation.

A smile can make you just fall in love with your child over and over again. One of the best feelings is the smile you get when your child sees that mummy and daddy have come to collect them from school, the way your child’s smile radiates around it makes you get butterflies.

A smile can signal forgiveness, a harder faces starts to soften and you know you are about to be forgiven and that loved one receives that smile and it lets them know you are sorry for upsetting them.

A smile can turn into a grin that signals that someone is going to have a very enjoyable evening and that you are so glad that someone loves you dearly.

So if you can start your day with a lovely smile. I highly recommend it! Thanks to my wonderful son who starts each day and night by putting his big cheesy smile right in my face as soon as he wakes up and before he goes to sleep. I love my children dearly and l love that a gesture like a smile can give so much hope and love.

So l suggest to you to remember the power of your smile and l hope you give and receive so many.

Take care and thanks for all those wonderful blogs and people who make us smile.

Thanks for reading smiling Cally

 

 

 

 

Give me hope and joy!

Thanks for checking in with me. It has been a challenging few weeks.  But it is a new year and l am filled with hope and look forward to all the new opportunities for joy.

l am determined to remain positive and try to ensure that I am ready to face my journey of life and l know that when l look back it will be with fond memories and wonder.

l hope that you have a wonderful start to the new year and that we all remain hopeful and stop to enjoy the pleasant moments and believe we will face challenges by being prepared and supported.

Take care

Cally

Why do we need to listen and give hope?

Why do we need to listen and give hope?

Hello everyone, thank you for checking in with me. I have been overwhelmed with how wonderful my wordpress community is. I have been inspired, moved and tearful reading the stories and experiences of my follow bloggers. I just want to say well done to everyone for being willing to help others to grow and develop. I have so much hope for the present and the future that I feel blessed.

I have had a challenging couple of weeks, and each time when things were really getting to me, something or someone gave me hope and encouragement. I hurt my knee and it has been giving me such pain and discomfort that it has been getting me down. It’s amazing how so many movements and activities involve bending your knee.  I am hoping that one way or another, my knee issue gets resolved. I should know by the weekend what is wrong with it. I just hope it is not from my running.

I have been trying to listen to all those who have reached out to me and really try to help all those that I can. I have created some additional web pages on my domain so I can spread the word about all the causes and issues people have been telling me about.

I think that mental wellbeing is so vital to us having hope, because without it we can feel so helpless and lost and unless there is someone to support us we can get trapped in a downward spiral. At the moment a friend of mine is feeling overwhelmed with her burdens – she has siblings but feels that all family issues are left to her to resolve. When she listed the issues; I was speechless and I realised she needed to rant and rave and just let it out. Sometimes, all we can do to support someone is to be there and just listen. Sometimes, a person’s issues cannot be resolved without the person talking it through and feel that someone is willing to hear what they have to say. My friend contacted me once she had calmed down and simply said thanks for listening. “I just needed someone to hear me, not to compare their life to mine, not to say how everything going to be alright, but to hear I am upset and overwhelmed with my burden”.

So I suggest to you that we have hope for ourselves and our friends but know that first we must listen to what someone has to say. That maybe, what the person needs first, is to know someone is willing to listen, and then after they have talked, give them the hope they need to cope with their issues. I know now, how important just being there at the right time can make all the difference for someone. Even here on my blog, someone wrote me a lovely comment and it made me smile and gave me relief from my knee agony for a few blissful moments. You never know how one moment of kindness and consideration of another person can have such a positive impact. So take that moment and let someone know you are there, listening and willing to give hope and inspiration when requested or needed.

Let me know how you get on, and don’t be disheartened by your challenges and struggles. Be there for someone when they just need someone to hear their cry for help and to acknowledge that right now they are being challenged. Let them know that you will listen and support them.

Good luck to us all and remember we have a wonderful community that is willing to share, care and listen. Thank you to all those who have made me remember the obvious: we all can make a differences for the better and we all matter.

Take care,

Cally.

How do we live the life of our dreams? What are the magic words you need to hear?

How do we live the life of our dreams? What are the magic words you need to hear?

Hello everyone,

Thanks for checking in on me. I am pleased to inform you that I have had, another productive and eventful week. The Big Fun 5k run was on Sunday and I successfully completed that in 34 minutes.But my success was not achieved on my own. What happened was quite unexpected.

During the race, I saw a man that was sweating profusely and looked like he was about to keel over. I stopped and asked him if he was okay. I engaged in conversation with him because I have been where he was. I had both empathy and understanding of his situation. I had to make a choice, but I knew what the right thing to do was because I also have been so out of breath and filled with terror because my body was not reacting the way it is supposed to, and my breathing was so erratic that I could just pass out.

So I made the decision to help this man. I stayed with this man during the remainder of the course and I shared my strategy with him. I told him let us run to the bench and then walk to the bins. I told him if you feel up to it we can keep going or stop when you need to. As we progressed through the course the man had more belief in my strategy and his breathing and pace continued to improve. This meant that we both completed the course and I did a personal best while helping another person.

In life there will always be someone who knows a strategy, or a secret to help us to achieve our goals. Slowing down to help someone out may seem like it is hindrance, but as in my case helping has always been beneficial to me. So I ask you, how can you help yourself by helping someone else? Can you share your tips for getting a good night sleep? Or your tips for getting your children to bed, or to school on time? There are so many things that you are an expert on, there are ways that we can help each other to be on the path to success. There must be something that you know could help a friend or family member.

We can all live the life of our dreams. We have to remember we don’t have to be selfish to succeed. Someone else’s downfall does not have to be the way to success. We must try to be the one person that is able to say I am going to live the life I want to live.

Let us be great rolemodels for our children and offer that support or advice. Let us say the magic words to our self or to others so that they strive for success and live the life of their dreams.

I know that we can all live the life of our dreams, but we must know what those goals or dreams are. Write those lists and give each goal a time or deadline so that you are one step closer to achieving the life of your dreams.

So what are the magic words you need to hear? Stop just thinking about what you want and get on and do something about it. Ask for help, find out more about how to achieve your goals. There are so many kind and generous people who will support you.

Find a mentor, find a friend that will remind you how amazing and wonderful you are. You are a winner and you will succeed.

Let me know how your challenges and successes work out. Remember you have to dream it and believe that you can take action. Know what you want to achieve and find out what you need to do it.

Good luck to us all and keep on believing in your dreams. Remember to hold on to that feeling of success and desire for change. The  result will be that we will all be sharing how we are living the life we have been dreaming about.

Take care and let me tell you my favourite quote that motivates me to work extra effectively.

Cally Finsbury

http://somespecialpeople.com/

How do we become more proactive? How do we get started?

Hello everyone,

I hope that you had had a productive few days. I have been very busy indeed. I have been training hard. I have become even quicker in my 5k run (36.48). It has been half term so I have been spending time with my children. Here is some great news for me, my youngest has been very calm and meltdowns have reduced. I feel positive and happy and I hope you are feeling great also.

So back to my main point, how do we become more proactive? There are 86400 seconds in a day! How do you intend to use them? I suggest to you that you become more motivated. You need to try to prioritise your tasks and remember it is easier to keep going, then to keep stopping and starting. Don’t keep putting things off. I have been there, it is so easy to say to yourself, I will start tomorrow or I am so busy I couldn’t possibly do this or that. There is no one to help me or support me. Be calm and remember who you are, you are a winner!

You have to remember it is easy to keep making excuses. The excuses seem reasonable and there will always be good reasons to put things off. But you have to know, that it is vital you get moving towards your goals and stay motivated to complete the challenge you have set yourself.

For instance, running is a great challenge for me, a rewarding experience but a challenge indeed. When I am running I have two choices: to keep moving or to stop. When the urge to stop comes over me, my mentor has told me, just tell yourself to take ten more steps. Now apply this strategy to your task or activity.

For instance we all have to clean and tidy our homes, some more than others (when my son has a meltdown he totally creates chaos and havoc in my domain) when you just want to stop tell yourself to just wash the dishes or clean the bathroom before you stop. The result, you have achieved more and you have developed more stamina,resistance and determination.

Make up your mind, that you are a proactive person. That you are the type of person that goes out and has all the accomplishments that you have ever dreamed of to reflect on. You know what you dream of achieving. You know that you want it now and not in some distant future. So what do you need to do? You need to make that list of things you need to do. Tell yourself to do it in stages and push yourself by reminding yourself of your goals and why you want to achieve that target. Get reminders to stick on the fridge or television, places you know you are going to go or look at.

Remember, there are so many things you are capable of, you just have to do it. Just keep trying and eventually you will succeed.

I know it is possible. I changed my attitude to one of positivity and optimism and my life feels so much better. The things that were getting me down, don’t seem so significant now. The goals that I have are being achieved. Daily I feel better about being me.

So be proactive and get productive and start achieving your goals. You know what you want, you know why you want to achieve it. If you don’t know how to achieve it do your research, ask for help and support. There are so many people out in the world that want to support and motivate you. I will do my best to motivate you. Let me know what you need and I will ask who knows where you can get support or assistance.

Good luck to us all, may we be motivated, proactive and productive. We can and will achieve our goals. Each day just remember you have started so all you need to do to achieve is to: stay focused and remember you are not alone. All the people that achieve things had to start and that is how they succeeded. Action is all it takes to get started. This is your call to action.

I look forward to hearing about your challenges and successes. You know you can do it. I did it and I am continuing to do it. I have started writing my second story with my wonderful but challenging children. I have my 5k run this weekend and I have been cleaning and tidying my house.

Take care Cally

Should we stop procrastinating and start living the life we want to live?

Hello,

Thank you for checking in with me. I have been so busy! Doing what you may ask. Well I have made up my mind to remind myself that I am so glad to be here. I intend to achieve my goals aims and ambitions. How am I going to do that you may ask! Well I have a plan of action.

The first thing I did was read several motivational books and I watched The Secret and from my research, I decided that I have to start enjoying my life and be glad that I am here. I have to remind myself that I am here to live my life and face whatever challenges that come my way.

As a busy parent, with very challenging and demanding children it is a real challenge to stay on task and get things done. So I said to myself, you have to stop procrastinating and start living the life you want to live, so that you have no regrets and smile when you reflect on the wonderful experiences you have had.

I want to motivate you to do the same. I want to share with you what I have been doing so that you know, what and how I have overcome challenges and hurdles.

My story is a simply one. I hope that you will see that you too can live the life you want to live.

I decided I would have to come up with a plan, so that it would be clear in my mind what I want and I would actually think about why I want it. So part of the plan was to make a list of things I want to do. After that I made notes on what I would need to do to implement the things on my list.

Once I made my list, I evaluated and made a few changes and felt very pleased.

My list was looking good, so I gave each thing a rough time guide and a note on how much time commitment would be necessary.

The result was, that I have had a very fruitful and effective week. So here are my tips for you:

Be glad you are here, and decide what you want to achieve, write it down, think about how and when you are going to do it and the most important part just do it.

Let me know how your week is and what you achieve on your list.

I managed to run another 5km and I am 1 minute faster because I have been training consistently. I managed to make time to listen to my children read daily and ask comprehension questions about the text we read. I also made fresh bread with my children on Sunday and used this as a teaching opportunity, so they were learning about measurement and change of state. I also managed to take the children to the park and had fun. I managed to write that book I have always wanted to write and I hope that you are inspired to do something you have always wanted to do to.

Thanks to all of you that have started running and are enjoying it as much as I do. It is challenging but so worthwhile especially when your stamina and strength starts to kick in and you notice it is easier to keep going. So remember, even if it is challenging at first, know that it will get easier and it will be so rewarding for yourself and for those who love you seeing you at your happiest and best. So what ever it is that you have been thinking about doing, start it as soon as you can. You will be glad that you have started and an amazing thing will happen, you will have more energy and time because you feel so full of life.

I look forward to you sharing your experiences. Let me know what you did, and how much you enjoyed it. Your children will love seeing you bright and happy, and it will have a positive impact on them too.

Good luck to us all. Let us remain positive and concentrate on achieving our goals, and let us aim high for ourselves, friends and family.

Cally Finsbury

http://somespecialpeople.com/

Opportunities not to be missed…

Hello everyone,

Thanks for checking in with me. I am just going to take this opportunity to remind you that depending on your circumstances, and how you look at any given situation, there is an opportunity for something positive or negative to happen.

Take for instance when you see something interesting on the way to school, do you take that opportunity to share new enlightenment with your child, or are you just relieved that they are quite and you are running on time.

Do you take the opportunity to do number bonds or simple problem solving with your children at each transition, or do you just think I am glad I am on schedule?

There are so many opportunities during the day to help ourselves or our children. Let us have the strength and determination to make use of all our opportunities, so that we may be successful and great role models for our children.

Take care and let us strive our goals and not regret missed opportunities.

Take each day as an opportunity to succeed, and achieve our goals and ambitions. What do you want to achieve today, tomorrow, in a month or year? Do you want to travel? Or write?

Let me know how you get on.

Denial is it a positive thing or a negative thing?

Hello everyone,

Thanks for checking in with me. It is so important that we continue to share and develop our self awareness.

Throughout our day and our lives we have to wonder are we in denial? Do we accept the various scenarios we find ourselves in? For instance, as parents, when we notice something different about our child do we accept it or ignore it? Do we do research and ask questions to find out if this behaviour or reaction of any given situation is the norm or something special?

It can be so challenging to accept that your child might be special, that they have additional or complicated needs. You can go through stages where you compare your child to your other children, or children of your friends or family.

I ask you, when is denial a good thing? Could it be when you know that it will help you to cope with your situation?

I do not know the answers, but I know the questions I have been asking myself and others. Let us consider if we stop being in denial, maybe we can get the support and help each other to know that we are not alone and it is alright to ask questions and ask for help.

Take care and remember fake it until you make it. You will succeed and ask for help when you need to.

Cally

http://www.somespecialpeople.com/

Why is it so important to listen?

Hello everyone,

Thank you for checking in with me. I have had a nerve racking couple of days because as I am about to suggest to you it is vital we really listen to what someone has to say.

People talk and communicate with us in so many ways. With our busy and hectic lives it is easy to avoid seeing all the clues, which can warn you that something is drastically wrong.

I am so glad and grateful that I have a wonderful guardian angel, which seems to always be there for me, even though at times I question why is something not going the way I want it to. When I have really needed things to work out for me they truly have.

I have just returned from the hospital, my youngest son was admitted with breathing difficulties and I can tell you it was such an awful experience seeing him grasping and his body working so hard to breathe. He was so drowsy and I was pleading with him to stay awake and not go to sleep, but he said I am just so tired. (I thought to myself if he is talking he is awake.)

It was so incredible how this life threatening situation escalated. He had a slight cough but the weather was bad and most children have a cough now and then I was relentlessly told. When it was home-time his dad told me that he just sat on a chair outside his class and said he was tired. On the way home I saw them and I ran up to them and he said mummy I am so tired carry me. My instinct told me to comply and I did I put him on my back and carried him home and told him he should change and lie down and watch a movie.

I spoke to his father and asked if the teacher had mentioned anything to him about our son and he said no. I asked his father how he was on the way home and he said he was a bit tired and walking slower than usual. I checked on my son and he was resting in his bed and seemed fine. The cough was not regular and so my friends and family said don’t worry about it so I tried to not be too concerned.

A short while after he fell asleep and I went to check on him again. During the evening he woke and was back on his schedule and things seem fine. But in the night he had begun to cough more frequently and he didn’t sound that great. I was not too pleased but friends and family dismissed my concerns with it just a cough or a common cold which child doesn’t get them now and then it builds up the immune system.

I had a restless night and made up my mind that first thing in the morning I needed to get peace of mind, so I would contact a doctor. By the time my son was with the doctor my son was so tired and his nose was flaring and his throat was thrusting and his stomach was moving vigorously.

Needless to say he was rushed to the hospital and given the required treatment and thus I have had a heart wrenching 24 hours. It took a long time for the breathing to not be such hard work for him but he is full of energy now and has a care plan to follow.

Hear my warning! Listen, don’t ignore or be dismissive because someone could be relying on you to hear them and to take action from hearing your words.

Thank you for letting my beloved child be on the road to recovery. Keep on believing and don’t give up on things working out for the best. Fake it until you make it so you succeed always.

Why is it so vital for us to make time for ourselves?

Hello everyone,

Thanks again for checking in with me. I am glad to say after sharing my stories about stress and behaviour management issues, lots of tips and words of wisdom have been given to me.

One of the most useful bits of advice I was given was to reflect and remember that whatever is upsetting or worrying you will one day just be a distant memory, so breathe and get through the day. This to me is so important to remember because when I reflect and look back at all the challenges I have experienced I know that I made it through. We can always make it through if we breathe and fake it until we make it.

We must stop, ask for support and help. We must look on the bright side of life and find something that we enjoy. I have signed up to do another 5k run for charity. It will give me a purpose and reason to take time for myself, and to take some time to train. Consequently I will feel better and make positive changes.

There are so many demands on parents that we have to remember the best way to take care of our children, is to take care of ourselves. If we are healthy and happy we can give our children a stable, positive and nurturing environment in which to thrive, so that they can be their true self and know confidently that no matter what they are valued, loved and respected.

Good luck to all of us, let us all remain positive in all situations and know that we are strong, capable and significant beings that will be triumphant. We have grit and determination and we are on a winning team.

Thank you for your support and listen to that person you know especially if crying out to be heard.

Cally

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