What have you being doing?

I have been fulfilling my purpose and helping my children to explore, learn and grow. For those of you who have been following my blog, you will know that my sons have wanted to be authors and YouTubers. Thanks to all of you, they are very successful at both.

Remember, if we can do it, so can you. Think about what you want and go for it. You will be glad you did. What is the one thing that you really want to achieve? What do you need to do to achieve it? If you work backwards, what are the steps that will get you there? What can you do each day to achieve a step closer? What can you do each week? Month and year to get you to your goal?

It took my boys and I a year to establish a routine that worked. It took us sticking to the commitment to take small steps towards success. When we have reflected on how much effort was involved we were amazed and grateful to have made it.

When we see our books in the bestsellers list, it is incredible! When the boys check the views and comments they feel proud.

You can make it as well. You can be the version of you that you want to be. If you want it, go and get it!

Good luck and know that my boys and I believe in you just as you have supported and cheered us along our wonderful journey

Take  care

Cally

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Come what may!

Come what may!
How was your day? Was it hard? Did you face obstacles or challenges? It may be a hard life, but don’t let that stop you from looking forward to each new day, come what may.
Remember tomorrow is another day and with it brings new opportunities to try and to succeed.
Think clearly about what you want in life. Don’t let life’s challenges, circumstances or fears stop you in your tracks.
Strive for success. Take each new opportunity as a moment to live and experience the wonderful world we live in. Think about your desires, wants and goals and be so clear that a five year old child would know what it is and if you have succeeded.
Decide to take action and just do it! Take the first step, don’t be afraid of failure, to fail is just another step on the path to success. The clearer you are on identifying your goals and the motivation behind them, the greater the chances will be of your eventual success.
My special son has shared his goals with me and he is well on the way to achieving his goals. He sits there roleplaying at being whatever it is he wants to be, he does his research and he smiles like he has already achieved it.
My special son inspires me and so many others. He doesn’t let anyone tell him something is unrealistic or impossible. Don’t let others or the voice in your head deter you from trying. Smile like you have already achieved it. Know that you have it within your grasp and you just have to be clear on what you want and be willing to do the work or pay the price.
Take action and let 2017 be a year you look back on fondly, knowing you did it.
So as my son says each morning when he is working towards his goals, “Do it now!”
My son then does his cheesy grin and dances across the hallway, being the best performer he can be.

Good luck on your journey. 2017 is the year of success.

Thanks for checking in with me.

Cally

If only life was more like Pac-Man

Thanks for checking in with me.

If only life was more like Pac-Man. I have watched my son play Pac-Man countless times. He has a groove, a smooth pattern that makes playing look easy. His highest scores is incredible. If he gets into difficulty or a challenging situation, he remains calm. Why? Because he has learnt if you don’t panic and just believe you can think of a solution, the likelihood of surviving the tricky situation is increased. When you watch him play you will see exactly how he just remains focused and calm (I will include the link so you can see exactly what I mean). If you just give up and just feel overwhelmed by the situation, then you get a selffulfilling prophecy and you are trapped and defeated because of your negative attitude. But if you believe in yourself and stay calm you can find or think of a solution to your predicament.

My son has dedicated several hours to his craft and it shows. He is aware that if you don’t take the first step and give it time and effort, how can you improve? He believes in practice, practice and more practicing. His time and effort show in his performance. He glides through each screen and it is stunning the way it almost looks effortless. You look at the speed and the transitions he makes as he progresses. He collects rewards and you can see his accomplishments accumulating.

When you take in the whole picture and see how he has mastered so many skills to make his progression seem effortless. He demonstrates so much about life.

This small child knows what he wants to achieve but the only thing holding him back is not fear but a lack of time. He would have achieved more but time runs out. He has wasted none of his lives; he makes it to the end of the game with one of the highest scores. His best scores are top 5% on X-Box Live.

How is this small child so accomplished and confident? It seems he just goes for it. He has identified his mission and purpose. He does not allow setbacks or obstacles to defeat or deter him. He has determination and perseverance to keep going. He has noticed the patterns and uses this knowledge to his advantage and if he does make a mistake he accepts it and keeps going.

I say to you to learn what you can from others and have a purpose so you too can achieve your goals and be a winner.

You do not know how much time you have, so do not waste any of your opportunities. Take the firsts step and get started on achieving your goals.

Watch my son play Pac-Man here :

 

 

 

Be happier?

As I type I am listening to my favourite soundtrack. I’m feeling happy. My family is my rock.

I suggest to you to be happy now. Decide what you want and be happy pursuing it. Enjoy the means not just the end. What service can you provide to the world? We need to live to our noble purpose.

Just do it! Do it now! Waiting for tomorrow may mean you never start. Procrastination is the thief of time. Don’t let your precious time be wasted. Fear is your enemy. You learn by living one step at a time. Look fear in the face and discover courage and strength.
Happiness is a byproduct of committing yourself to giving joy and you will get all the joy you need.

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do. “Eleanor Roosevelt

Feed your mind with information. Have a mindset to be motivated, to listen to other successful people who have achieved their goal. Go for it and see it to the end. If you stop working towards your goal, make sure that you start again. Take time to be with motivators who remind you of your goal. Read material that is going to provide you with personal growth. Have the belief and remind yourself daily what your goals are?
Read and listen to growth mindset material daily so you will achieve your success.

Make it a habit to focus on your goal daily.

Be always moving forward in everything you do. The way you move forward is to make a decision and take action. Think about what you want to achieve and take action so you will be closer to achieving your goals. You need to apply it now not later; excuses waste your opportunities for success and ruin the likeliness of a positive outcome. Give yourself the opportunities so you can achieve your goals.

Get a mentor, get someone to assist you in your goal so you have the knowledge and information you need to learn and grow. You have to evolve, so find someone who can help you to reach your goals. Having someone to answer your questions and prompt you. Having someone to keep you focused and on track. A mentor will help you to become very focused to achieving your goals. Having someone who has achieved what you want to achieve and will lead you along your path. Someone you can identify with and give you what you need help with or what is preventing you from reaching your goal. Find someone to give you the personal instruction that you deserve.

You must have confidence, when you enter a room, let your eyes and your body posture convey confidence. All your actions and communications must demonstrate confidence. You must have a confident and positive attitude. You need to make your subconscious aware that you are confident and you will achieve the goals you have.

You must stay focused, have realistic goals and move forward daily. Look ahead and know where you are going. Don’t’ get distracted or lose focus. Make sure your goal is very clear so you know what you are targeting. Identify your aspirations so that you are successful and achieve your goals.

Remember, make a decision and take action. Take daily steps. Eliminate your fears and negative mindset. Have a plan, stay focused and remove negativity. You deserve to achieve your goal. Do your preparation and learn about what you need and take all the necessary steps.

Good luck on your journey to being happier. Take care Cally.

I am harmonious and happy.

Sunburst in a blue sky

Hi everyone, thanks for checking in with me. I am happy and harmonious. Thank you for all of your support, comments, prayers and positive thinking. I am finally on the other side and it really feels good.

I can finally say, waking up isn’t a nightmare of pain.

Getting to be in a good place can be a challenge, but it is a worthwhile destination. Now when I wake up, I appreciate the start of a new day. I am just so grateful to be feeling good and I couldn’t of got here without you!

I just want to share the things that really helped me and so they can help you or someone else you know.

Knowing that I was loved and people really cared about me really helped me know this moment of despair is temporary and this love is infinite and one day I would be smiling again and feeling happy.

Listening to music really lifted me up and joining in and singing along with my favourite tunes was really beneficial. There were days when the lyrics spoke to me and just gave me hope. Some of my favourites were One love, Three little birds, Heaven must be missing an angel, Hustle and My first my last my everything.

Laughing really helped as well, my children reminded me of everything I had ever said that was hilarious and how their cute little faces made me laugh. One of my favourites was: What do you call a dog sitting too close to a fire? A hot dog! I just chuckled as I typed it, so it is still working it’s magic.

Swimming was such a great source of relief, feeling weightless in the water and just relaxing with my sons was great but it was some time before I was up to swimming. But when I did feel up to it, I loved it so much.

My Tens machine was my first source of relief, it really helped. It really helped with the physical healing of the wounds and the doctors and physiotherapists were really impressed. Oh having physio was really great, it helped push my body in a safe and healthy way.

So there you have it. I am back, relieved and grateful because suffering and misery are awful. Being happy and harmonious is great!

Take care and know I appreciate you so much!

Cally

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Remember to see beyond today

 

Hello everyone, thanks for checking in with me. Sometimes you can feel like things aren’t going to get better. But you have to remember to think beyond the moment you are in. Right now I am going through recovery, I am trying to get my body to heal and be strong enough to function. But the obstacles of pain, depondancy, despair and burdens are getting to me.

I know that l have to get through the here and now and get to each tomorrow, until I am at the stage when my body has healed and I am better. Whatever we are going through in life we need to remember that one day in the future it will be the past. Right now this list of things I need to do to get better seems overwhelming, but if I see it as one type of exercise to do and one bit of food to eat and one drink to drink and one day of pain to get through eventually I will achieve my target of being better.

I have to remember each thing does not have to be prefect l just have to do it and keep on doing it and know that l will eventually be better.

So I suggest to you to remember just get started and keep trying as Newton said if you are moving or staying still it is difficult to change to the other. So once we start we can just keep going until we reach our goal or destination.

Ask for help and let others know what you need. Feel as if you have achieved it already. I have been reminding myself how good I usually feel and I told my family how I have been feeling and they have agreed to do their best to help. So let us rememember we can get through today and know that one day we will be feeling good again. We must reinforce the feeling already healed already done.

Let us support each other and work together so we can respond in a positive way and so we are better.

Take care Cally

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Think about it, how precious is time?

Hi everyone, thanks for checking in with me. This year is special because it is a leap year. Waiting four years for a leap year, so much time has passed. Do we truly value how precious time is? I just visited my in-laws and time seemed to past at a different rate. When I look at my children and see how they are growing and developing, I think how time passes so quickly. Why is it, when we are doing something pleasant, we don’t see how the speed of time changes?

Bruce Lee said something that has stayed in my mind: “If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.”

I suggest to you, that you remember to live your life and use each precious moment in a way that you enjoy. Spend your moments doing the things you say you will do someday. When is someday? Is it today? Tomorrow? A week from now? If ever?

There are so many things l want to do. Thanks to a fellow blogger, Seb, I have a checklist of things that will stimulate my mind and give me the “feel good” feeling.

I want to reflect on my memories knowing I felt good everyday and I kept feeling better. I want to be excited about each new day, because it is an opportunity to do all those things that make me feel alive. I want to experience all there is to feel.

One of my favourite authors Charles Haanel, inspired me to have goals and what type of person you need to be. I want to know that I am whole, perfect, loving, harmonious, powerful, strong and happy. He made me realise that you need to feel good.

I know that l feel good everyday and others are starting to feel good. People often ask me why do l feel so good?  I tell them about the good days and the slightly less good times and that they can feel good as well.

Let us use our time well everyday, so we fulfil our dreams, I know that I am feeling good and those around me are feeling good also.

I shared my idea with my children and they really are adorable and supportive children. We have written our goals and we have described the feeling that we want to achieve and we are holding on to it. My husband kinda likes the idea but he says he doesn’t do back flips. Who does? Don’t allow others to distract you.

So join us in thinking about how to use your time to feel good. Use your time well so that you are not missing a part that would fulfil you. What do you need to do to feel whole and complete? What do you need to do so you can face those challenges, so that you feel strong and powerful? So you can say yes to opportunities and no to time wasting and negative situations? So you can be loving to yourself and those you care for? Why should you use your precious time wisely? So that the result will be that you are happy.

Thomas Edison once remarked: “Time is the only capital any human being has and the only thing he cannot afford to lose.”

Good luck to us all on this wonderful journey of life, let us be the best version of ourselves and fulfil our hopes and dreams.

Take care and let me know how to use that precious time.

Happy Cally.

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For a great source of knowledge and tips to help you improve your life check out Seb.

Feel good?

Hello everyone, thanks for checking in with me. Do you feel good? Well, l am feeling good and l want to keep feeling better.

I have been reflecting and reading and l know that l feel good when l have a purpose. I feel good when l have something l am looking forward to achieving. Feeling good feels great! Just like smiling makes you feel good.

Children are amazing! they make feeling good look easy. My son is a master at feeling good. Mud made from rain gives him a purpose. He makes plans to play and build in that mud and he does it. Children can remind you to get on and do those things that make you feel good. The feeling of happiness l get when my son says, “Come on mummy! Come and play with me.”

Just get started feeling good. Getting started on what you feel is your purpose  and what will help you to feel good.

Get prepared to get started on that small action that will get you on the road to feeling good. It can be different for you, but you know what you need to do, for it to be that first step. Now what needs to be done? It is all about feeling. What makes you feel good? What are those things you want to get done? And what is the next step?

You are in charge, manage what you need to do, manage your distractions. Move from a vague goal to actually what you need to do to get started.

Be the role model for yourself. Be clear on what you want to do to feel good. What are the things you need to do so that you can achieve that feeling of feeling good? What next? Just keep on being driven to achieve, so you feel good and keep feeling better.

Remember the present and the future are just a matter of time. Help the present you and future you to feel good by thinking about your goals and sense of purpose, and implement the actions you need to do to achieve.

When you look back with fond memories, it is because you lived the life that made you feel good. You will be grateful you created a foundation for your children to know mindset and purpose are the key.

S0 l ask you, do you feel good? I hope your future you will be able to say, “yes l do and l keep feeling better.”

Take care, feeling good, Cally.

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Why do we need to listen and give hope?

Why do we need to listen and give hope?

Hello everyone, thank you for checking in with me. I have been overwhelmed with how wonderful my wordpress community is. I have been inspired, moved and tearful reading the stories and experiences of my follow bloggers. I just want to say well done to everyone for being willing to help others to grow and develop. I have so much hope for the present and the future that I feel blessed.

I have had a challenging couple of weeks, and each time when things were really getting to me, something or someone gave me hope and encouragement. I hurt my knee and it has been giving me such pain and discomfort that it has been getting me down. It’s amazing how so many movements and activities involve bending your knee.  I am hoping that one way or another, my knee issue gets resolved. I should know by the weekend what is wrong with it. I just hope it is not from my running.

I have been trying to listen to all those who have reached out to me and really try to help all those that I can. I have created some additional web pages on my domain so I can spread the word about all the causes and issues people have been telling me about.

I think that mental wellbeing is so vital to us having hope, because without it we can feel so helpless and lost and unless there is someone to support us we can get trapped in a downward spiral. At the moment a friend of mine is feeling overwhelmed with her burdens – she has siblings but feels that all family issues are left to her to resolve. When she listed the issues; I was speechless and I realised she needed to rant and rave and just let it out. Sometimes, all we can do to support someone is to be there and just listen. Sometimes, a person’s issues cannot be resolved without the person talking it through and feel that someone is willing to hear what they have to say. My friend contacted me once she had calmed down and simply said thanks for listening. “I just needed someone to hear me, not to compare their life to mine, not to say how everything going to be alright, but to hear I am upset and overwhelmed with my burden”.

So I suggest to you that we have hope for ourselves and our friends but know that first we must listen to what someone has to say. That maybe, what the person needs first, is to know someone is willing to listen, and then after they have talked, give them the hope they need to cope with their issues. I know now, how important just being there at the right time can make all the difference for someone. Even here on my blog, someone wrote me a lovely comment and it made me smile and gave me relief from my knee agony for a few blissful moments. You never know how one moment of kindness and consideration of another person can have such a positive impact. So take that moment and let someone know you are there, listening and willing to give hope and inspiration when requested or needed.

Let me know how you get on, and don’t be disheartened by your challenges and struggles. Be there for someone when they just need someone to hear their cry for help and to acknowledge that right now they are being challenged. Let them know that you will listen and support them.

Good luck to us all and remember we have a wonderful community that is willing to share, care and listen. Thank you to all those who have made me remember the obvious: we all can make a differences for the better and we all matter.

Take care,

Cally.

How do we live the life of our dreams? What are the magic words you need to hear?

How do we live the life of our dreams? What are the magic words you need to hear?

Hello everyone,

Thanks for checking in on me. I am pleased to inform you that I have had, another productive and eventful week. The Big Fun 5k run was on Sunday and I successfully completed that in 34 minutes.But my success was not achieved on my own. What happened was quite unexpected.

During the race, I saw a man that was sweating profusely and looked like he was about to keel over. I stopped and asked him if he was okay. I engaged in conversation with him because I have been where he was. I had both empathy and understanding of his situation. I had to make a choice, but I knew what the right thing to do was because I also have been so out of breath and filled with terror because my body was not reacting the way it is supposed to, and my breathing was so erratic that I could just pass out.

So I made the decision to help this man. I stayed with this man during the remainder of the course and I shared my strategy with him. I told him let us run to the bench and then walk to the bins. I told him if you feel up to it we can keep going or stop when you need to. As we progressed through the course the man had more belief in my strategy and his breathing and pace continued to improve. This meant that we both completed the course and I did a personal best while helping another person.

In life there will always be someone who knows a strategy, or a secret to help us to achieve our goals. Slowing down to help someone out may seem like it is hindrance, but as in my case helping has always been beneficial to me. So I ask you, how can you help yourself by helping someone else? Can you share your tips for getting a good night sleep? Or your tips for getting your children to bed, or to school on time? There are so many things that you are an expert on, there are ways that we can help each other to be on the path to success. There must be something that you know could help a friend or family member.

We can all live the life of our dreams. We have to remember we don’t have to be selfish to succeed. Someone else’s downfall does not have to be the way to success. We must try to be the one person that is able to say I am going to live the life I want to live.

Let us be great rolemodels for our children and offer that support or advice. Let us say the magic words to our self or to others so that they strive for success and live the life of their dreams.

I know that we can all live the life of our dreams, but we must know what those goals or dreams are. Write those lists and give each goal a time or deadline so that you are one step closer to achieving the life of your dreams.

So what are the magic words you need to hear? Stop just thinking about what you want and get on and do something about it. Ask for help, find out more about how to achieve your goals. There are so many kind and generous people who will support you.

Find a mentor, find a friend that will remind you how amazing and wonderful you are. You are a winner and you will succeed.

Let me know how your challenges and successes work out. Remember you have to dream it and believe that you can take action. Know what you want to achieve and find out what you need to do it.

Good luck to us all and keep on believing in your dreams. Remember to hold on to that feeling of success and desire for change. The  result will be that we will all be sharing how we are living the life we have been dreaming about.

Take care and let me tell you my favourite quote that motivates me to work extra effectively.

Cally Finsbury

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