So it begins again…

Hi all,

The weekend is fast approaching followed by the start of a new month. For us parents this can be a very challenging time. But don’t despair. Remember all the tips and support you have heard.

Always remember there is a whole community out there willing to listen, share or advise. I feel comfort knowing that in this new 24 hour world there is always someone out there awake. All you have to do is use face book, twitter; text messages or whatever is your preference.

I find it incredible that people can now connect with each other at any moment. We need to take advantage of this technological revolution and embrace all the benefits we can.

Do not feel alone, isolated or anxious again. There is someone out there that has felt the humiliation of eyes staring, as you try to complete what to everyone else may be the easiest of tasks, but to you it may be a milestone.

Just reach out and you will read messages of joy, success or defeat.

But when that message of defeat is released bolster that individual with words of positivity and hope.

Good luck as the school run begins once again. Be calm when your instructions are ignored. Stand strong when the supermarket dash is full of chaos and moans of complain.

Remember to fake it until you make it. That stress is your body’s way of preparing you for action. Use that grit inside you to preserve. Lastly remember your field of diamonds. You already have everything you need to succeed. Preparation is a tool for success.

Lists, timetables and notices are your friend, put them on display to remind you of your goals, schedules and task to complete.

Let me know how great your weekend was and tell me about the first week back at school.

Take care and remember ask for help when you need it. Stay positive and have a growth mind set.

Cally

http://www.somespecialpeople.com/

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Is preparation the key to success and achieving our goals? Earl Nightingale

Hi everyone,

I suggest to you that preparation is vital for our children’s success. We must prepare ourselves with the knowledge and skills to help each other.

If we have a goal we need to think about how we are going to achieve it. We need to know which steps we can take to be a success. We must research and prepare for any task we are to successfully complete.

Acres of Diamonds Article by: Earl Nightingale

Has helped me to understand that if you don’t prepare then prepare to fail.

The wonderful story teaches us yes go for our goals, but you need to know what that goal involves. You must remember to think and consider what you need to know. For instance, do you need to know how to find it? Do you need to know what it looks like? What do you need to know to achieve your goal? We need to be clear in our mind what it is we want and how we will get it.

The Acres of Diamonds story is told of an African farmer who heard tales about other farmers, who became wealthy by discovering diamond mines. These stories motivated the farmer so much that without preparation he sold his farm to go prospecting for diamonds himself. From the farmers experience it is indicated that it is vital to prepare, so we can succeed.

I suggest to you that as Earl Story states “each of us is, at this very moment, standing in the middle of our own acres of diamonds. If we had only had the wisdom and patience to intelligently and effectively explore the work in which we’re now engaged, to explore ourselves, we would most likely find the riches we seek, whether they be financial or intangible or both.”(Earl Nightingale )

I suggest to you that as the story reminds us, we must stop and think about what we want. We have wonderful children that love us dearly. We must support each other by discovering what each of us can do to prepare. We must develop our patience. Remember to consider what do we need to be knowledgeable about,so that we do not waste the opportunities right in front of us.

Someone else may seem to have all the things that we want, but we must not waste our time thinking someone else has it all. We can have what we want, if we just research and prepare.

So remember what Earl said:”Before you go running off to what you think are greener pastures, make sure that your own is not just as green or perhaps even greener.  Besides, while you’re looking at other pastures, other people are looking at yours.” So you already have what it takes to be successful and happy.

Lets share our knowledge and experiences so that we are all motivated to change for success.

So what are your goals?

What research have you done to achieve them?

What help do you need?

Check out the links below. Earl has so many wise messages to help us to be positive and happy.

http://www.nightingale.com/articles/acres-of-diamonds/

http://www.somespecialpeople.com/

Thanks Cally

Can playing games be good for your well being?

Hello everyone,

I have had such a hectic day. But let me take a moment to tell you about how we can be stronger and healthy. I always try to remind you that we have to feel okay about asking for help and supporting, each other so we can cope with our challenges. Yesterday I suggested to you that stress can be a positive. Today I am going to suggest to you that playing games can be really good for your well being.

What games do you like to play? I love to play Pac Man. I am actually extremely proud of myself when it comes to Pac Man. I am in the top five percent on X-Box DX Pac Man. The idea that playing can actually be good for me is an idea I find comforting.

When I was little there was a rule you lose and you are out of the game. So that meant you have to wait for someone to lose to get your turn again. Now I am an adult I still have to be waiting for my turn because of the list of things that need to be completed and all the additional support special need children require.

When I came across research from someone I really respected I knew it was an opportunity to really reflect on things. So I suggest we put things in prospective and realise the present is now but it will soon pass so stay positive and get through another set of challenges.

Some of you might recognise the name or the face. She is absolutely awe inspiring and I highly recommend you check this out. Another incentive is that it will apparently add to your well being. Jane McGonigal will help us play so we can get 7 minutes of bonus life. Do the challenges it will help you in so many ways.

Lets enjoy and be happy. Hope you agree that this is amazing research.

Let us play and be champions players. Let us ask for help and connect with friends and family.

Let me know if you feel better tackling challenges. We need to value today and enjoy it so we have fewer regrets.

Cally

http://www.somespecialpeople.com/

Can stress be a positive thing?

Hi everyone,

There can be different situtions that make us feel stressed. I think that if we know and accept it is going to happen, then we can change our mindset to help us to cope. We need to not allow it to be a negative. We need to view those signs of stress as the body preparing for action.

For instance I know I have just four weeks to be ready for my Teach First River Run. I have just be informed that the location of one of the courses I am signed up for has been moved, instead of 8 more sessions there will be four longer days from 8-5.30. As you know when you have a family and you have a lot of family things to do before you leave to be at the location. So I have to change how I view these situations.

There has been lots of interesting research about stress. One of my favourites is by Kelly McGonigal. She has really helped me to know the upside or positive side. So when you are stressed ask for help you have a mechanism which is human connection.

I listened with keen interest to find out how this stress could be a positive.I have to manage my time to complete several tasks that all seem to be looming closer and closer. So I need to see all these things as something to look forward to as an opportinity to share my experiences and get support. The feeling of stress is my body being ready. Remember when I told you about Amy Cuddy – Fake it until you make it. Well prime yourself to believe stress is a positive thing.

We have to remember all the previous tips I have suggested to help us to cope. We need to support  those we care about and make others aware of the challenges we experience.

So I read several of her comments and have been reading her book. It is so informative and helpful. Check out her site and Ted talk.

So let me know if you agree that stress can be a good thing because it gives us the opportunity to help each other and reconnect.

Connect with others when you are stressed. We need to share our experiences and challenges.

http://kellymcgonigal.com/2014/11/15/watch-my-ted-talk-how-to-make-stress-your-friend/

Kelly has found a way for stress to be your friend. We need as many friends as we can.

Take care

Cally

http://www.somespecialpeople.com/

Does your body language shape who you are? Can you fake it until you make it?

Hi everyone,

We must continue to share our challenges and support each other.

I believe in the importance of motivation. What I suggest is that you fake it until you make it.

What do I mean by that? We have all experienced challenges. But it is how we react that makes the differences.

If we fake that we are calm and in control of the situation, we can become calmer because we will breathe better and start to become more relaxed.

So don’t give up when something is challenging. If we want to succeed, I have suggested that you need grit. So this is where the fake it until you make it suggestion comes in. You have to tell yourself I am strong, or I am powerful and then act as if it has already happen. Remember people make judgements by how you act. We must be great role models and show our children how to use their body language to be successful. We must give them the tools for success. What can they do if they are feeling worried or scared? Give them a plan they can use.

It would be good to see this in action. There is a brillant  TED talk with  Amy Cuddy that can just bring tears to you face. I mean it you need to check it out. She tells you about her exeprience of faking it until she made it.

That is what we need to do. Each day when we are struggling to get the children ready for school. Or our day seems to be getting worse for what ever reason. We have to stop and smile and act like a winner. We need to stop and do the power stance. We need to get those arms up in the air or do the Wonder Woman pose for two minutes. It will make such a difference to how we tackle any challenging situation. Or as my eldeste son said when he watched it you might look so silly you start to laugh and that will also make you feel relaxed enough to handle any challenging situation. All I could say was well done.

So check out the link below and tell me if you were crying, laughing or feeling like the winner you are.

Have a great time

Cally

http://www.somespecialpeople.com/

The key to success? Grit

Hello everyone,

I hope your feeling good.

I want to just remind you about my motto motivating change for success.

I am so excited because I Just wanted to give you a really good tip and remind you how important it is that we stay motivated for success.

I am so grateful that I can ask for help and that I can cope with challenges.

People are always commenting to me :

that you never give up do you

you just perserve on whatever you set your mind to.

Why can I stick at anything? It is because I have grit and I want to make sure that you do to.

I have previously mentioned the importance of grit and I have found someone on Ted talks who has completed research and she helps us to understand the significance of Grit.

Angela Lee Duckworth tells it like it is. She explains what our children need to have to succeed. As I have always believed motivation is the key. We need to be motivated role models. We need to make sure our children are aware of a growth mind set. Which means we must believe we can succeed.

We must believe we can improve and keep on getting better.

We must stick with our goal and achieve those targets.

I have included the link below.

Thanks for your support

Cally

Setting goals

Hello everyone,

I hope you are feeling good.

As I have said previously, we need to be continually looking to motivate ourselves and strive for success but how?

We need to have goals.

If we have goals we have a purpose.

When times are challenging we can remind ourselves about goals. I have family goals, work goals and personal goals.

Each morning I check out a wonderful site by Brian Johnson.(See link below)

https://brianjohnson.me/philosophersnotes-tag/goal-setting/

Brian is excellent because he reminds me that we are here to optimise our life.

https://www.youtube.com/user/PhilosophersNotes

The best way I think we can do that is to be the best versions of ourselves, so we can help each other and most importantly be great role models for our children. If our children witness us trying and trying no matter how difficult it is, they will realise that we must have goals so we can be successful.

I recommend having goals that you can divide up into sections, so that the goals do not feel overwhelming.

I have been preparing my youngest son for reception school, we have talking about what to expect. We have been discussing our goals for school and talking about how to help him to be ready. We came up with a plan together. We are going to make sure he can confidently do things for himself. I have been working on different areas like well being, speaking/ listening and his phonics.

I made a list of different ways I can provide opportunties to develop his skills, awareness and knowledge.

Each day I do fun activities like cooking, gardening or exploring so he has an opportunity to do things which will ensure that he has the skills to help him to cope in reception. It is really vital to provide opportunities for him to make choices and work towards his goals.

One of the reasons it is so important to me that more people are aware of children and people with special needs is because we have to interact with people during our everyday routines or any part of our day.

I look forward to the day I achieve my goal to travel and explore the world.

Remember to have goals and just work towards it each day, week, month and year.

We can succeed.

Let me know what your goals are.

Take care have a great time.

Cally

Keeping training

Hello everyone,

great news, just checked the TeachFirst Site and all 3000 running places have been filled.

Sold out stamp image

There is still a waiting list that people can sign up for and they still require volunteers.

Thanks to everyone for signing up.

Lets keep training and getting fit it is a good way to be motivated for success.

I have included the link below and it will explain how education needs to help those who face challenges and need help. Lets make more people aware of the needs of our children.

http://www.teachfirst.org.uk/why-we-exist/what-educational-inequality

Have a good time.

Cally

Getting fit (Change4Life for UK only)

Hello everyone,

As you all know I am in training for my Teach First Run the River.

Before I begin just want to say that exercise in any form is good. So use this to motivate and excite you.

Most important thing is just get moving when you can.

10 minute shake up

Just wanted to let you know about a wonderful way to encourage our children to exercise with the bonus gift you can get for your children.

My sons were very excited when the postman delivered a package with their names on it .

Nevermind how happy they were when they looked inside. (Added bonus the pack is free)

Whats great about it is that it a great teaching opportunity. So many children never receive post delivered by a postman anymore. It is set up like a game so there are teams and challenges.

(The cards have been used by boys to play snap, they have been using the resources in all sort of creative ways)

It is called the 10 minute shake up, it is bright and attractive. It will help get our children engaged.

There is a choice of four different themes.

I must warn you are limited to three per house and the themes are:

Toy story

Frozen

Monsters

Big Hero 6

and each pack contains the wristband timer, cards, poster and challenges.

You can still do it If you don’t have a wristband timer or aren’t near a computer, use your smartphone, or other timer to keep track of their Shake Up time.

Another warning is that my son was very disappointed that Big Hero 6 does not come with a wristband timer.

I have put the link below. It a great game format and it has great themes that you children will know and love.

https://www.nhs.uk/10-minute-shake-up

So lets get fit and healthy together so we are motivate to be successful.

Good luck and get it before its sold out. Remember this offer is for UK only (Sorry)

Have a great time

Cally

Teach First – Run the River

Hello everyone,

Thanks for checking in with me. Just want to let you all know about somethings I am doing to help increase awareness for children that need help.

Just got back from my run. I have signed up to do my first ever Teach First Run the River.

I have been chatting with some of the other runners and they are really excited because it is for such a good cause.

There are 3,000 runners signed up for a twilight Thames challenge!
Teach First’s annual Run the River event returns to More London on 15 September 2015 at 7pm. Walk.

What I really like about it is that you don’t have to already be fit and super healthy because you can jog or run. The other thing is that there is a 5k & 10k routes along the Thames past iconic landmarks such as Tower Bridge, the Tower of London and Shakespeare’s Globe.

All funds raised by Run the River will go towards Teach First’s work to give every child access to a brilliant education.

http://www.teachfirst.org.uk/run-river-2015  (lets make it sold out )

My sons are really excited about this and have been putting their extra energy to locate great sites to help me prepare for the Teach First – Run the River.

The one I really recommend is the from the couch to 5k I have included the link below.

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/c25k/Pages/couch-to-5k.aspx

This is another opportunity for people to become more aware of the needs of children facing challenges.

If you have training tips to help let me know.

Take care have a great time.

Cally